The Condensed Version Of The Serenity Prayer

Awarded For Wise Surrender

A Little Something to Cheer You On

*Explicit Language

“You know, Baby Girl, ‘Fuck it’ is the condensed version of The Serenity Prayer. It really is. Be sure to use that for one of your art pieces someday.”

-Rev. Erica Trantham, March 2011


I laughed through tears as she said this.

These were strong words of wisdom given to me by my Beloved Teacher and Friend, Rev. Erica Trantham, a Unity Minister, in the days just before she passed from this world to the next.

Rev. Erica had a deep sense of majesty and wisdom, laced with a clear wit which most times anchored the lesson with laughter. 

I've realized all The Great Masters are funny. Yes, indeed, they are all funny.

And I had the unique privilege to be one of those holding her hand as she died.

Baby Girl was my nickname because I was often the youngest person in the room by a decade or two.  And although she never had any children, she said she would’ve loved one just like me.

Amidst the ravages of the final stages of ovarian cancer, she stopped fighting against the inevitable and made choices in the areas where she actually had power. 

She had no choice in the death, but she made choices about the dying. 

She had been fighting and fighting. 

She decided to stop fighting. 

She stopped affirming it away.

She stopped praying for a miracle, because she did not want a miracle anymore.

She had already gotten many miracles and extensions.

She stopped not because she or God had failed, but because she was complete with what her soul came here to do. 

She rejected the idea that she had created her illness from not thinking positively enough or that it had come as punishment. 

This was misinformation she would not perpetuate.

She knew it was her time and she surrendered the struggle and accepted her death.

This was not easy, but she did it. 

She chose how hard the hard needed to be in the end. 

And for those of you who are not familiar with The Serenity Prayer, attributed to Reinhold Niebuhr, read below:

“God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change. The courage to change the things that I can.  And the wisdom to know the difference.”

How many times do we make ourselves suffer to a greater extent because we hold on too long to that which is over or approaching inevitable death? 

How many times do we suffer because we try to control or change things we cannot possibly control or change?

A snake sheds its skin not because it has been bad. It sheds its skin because it is time.

This Soul Success Medal for Humanity is earned by those who knew when it was time and made some choices about the dying.

It is for those who let it go and let it be. 

It is for those who took a deep, deep, breath and said a nice, empowered, 

“Fuck It”.

Fuck it: Let it go.

Fuck it: Let it be.

Fuck it: Let’s do this. 

Take your pick.

These are all moments of holy surrender which will usher you into the glorious unknown.

And, yes, there should most certainly be a medal for that.


Keep it simple.  Have delicious food delivered. 

Enjoy it in good company, which can include dining alone.

Suggested Celebration Music: 

1. “The Gambler”-Kenny Rogers

2. “Joanne”-Lady Gaga

3. “Heart of the Mother”-Elaine Silver

4. “Solid and Strong”-Kimya Dawson


See Spotify Playlist: The Soul Success Medals for Humanity